Hanna Fobare was born and raised in Dallas, Texas. She is the middle sister in a family of three girls. She graduated from The Hockaday School in 2010 where she enjoyed playing competitive soccer and running track. Hanna continued her soccer career after high school by enrolling at Clemson University and playing for their NCAA Division I women’s soccer program.
Looking back on her middle and high school years, Hanna now recognizes patterns of deterioration of her self-esteem. Subject to a hyper competitive and rigorous academic school environment, Hanna sought and found success by flexing her athletic and social strengths. She was a social butterfly with tons of friends and a force to be reckoned with on the soccer field. By the end of Hanna’s senior year of high school, she had committed to a top university with an athletic scholarship.
However, shortly into her soccer career at Clemson, the sport that once brought Hanna joy and fun began to make her feel tired and anxious. She became frustrated with her lack of playing time and the demands of her busy practice and travel schedule. Recognizing that her involvement on the team was no longer making her happy, Hanna made the decision to leave the program.
Hanna found herself with an unfamiliar amount of time and few commitments. For the first time in her life, she had no formal structure or sense of self-identity. She thought to herself, if she was no longer an elite athlete then who was she? How would her success as a peer, sister, and daughter be measured? Feeling lost in a college environment, drinking became Hanna’s companion and she began to spend more and more time partying. The drinking progressed and she eventually started to use other chemicals seeking acceptance from friends, validation from men, and fulfillment through material things. It was at this point that her behavioral issues surfaced and her self-esteem plummeted. With drugs and alcohol a constant part of her life and routine, she fell into a deep depression. Slowly, her addiction became all-consuming at the expense of her schoolwork, friendships, and any form of self-care.
Over the course of a couple of years Hanna’s condition became so serious and her addiction so apparent that her family admitted her to a dual diagnosis treatment center. Hanna struggled for sobriety for months. At first, she sought treatment for her family’s sake alone. However, eventually Hanna realized that she would only achieve recovery if it came from within. Finally, after her time in therapy and undergoing treatment, Hanna committed to recovery and began her journey.
Hanna’s story is a turbulent and interesting one. With the help of family, friends, doctors, therapists, and support from the recovery field, she was able to achieve full recovery. Bad days are inevitable, but she no longer turns to substances for solace. Instead, Hanna has developed a healthy life style and coping skills. Hanna has found a huge support network within the Dallas recovery community and developed an authentic and lifelong passion for helping others. She finds joy in spirituality and engages in regular fitness, keeping herself healthy and her mind clear. Hanna now knows that her sobriety is a huge part of her life, and is the key to her success as a professional.
Hanna feels immense gratitude to those who supported and guided her journey to recovery. Empowered by her journey, Hanna founded HEF recovery. With the expert guidance and resources provided by HEF, those suffering addiction can too, begin their journey.
Fritz Deichert grew up in Dallas, Texas. He is the oldest child of two and graduated from Highland Park High School in 2009. He later attended the University of Alabama. After college Fritz worked for Fox Sports Southwest.
As a child, Fritz enjoyed many seasons of competitive sports and activities participating in everything from baseball to performing in school plays. He took great pride in being part of a team. As Fritz’s social career began to evolve so did his curiosity of drugs and alcohol. The changes were subtle at first: Fritz would leave family functions early or skip practice to attend social events like parties with his friends. He began to prioritize his social status and neglect his responsibilities at school and at home. Worried about his trajectory Fritz’s parents became more involved, often questioning Fritz’s whereabouts and intentions. But, his parents concern only led Fritz to become more invested in his social life away from home.
By the beginning of his high school career Fritz’s interest in drugs and alcohol was rapidly growing. Fritz began to use alcohol as a social lubricant and began using drugs daily. His family, consumed with fear, demanded Fritz seek treatment halfway through high school. While in treatment Fritz was forced to reflect on his many relationships, including his deteriorating relationship with his family.
But the initial success of treatment was short lived as Fritz headed back to high school and then to the University of Alabama. While in school Fritz quickly fell back into old habits, surrounding himself with quantity over quality and using drugs and alcohol to mask his true emotions. The intense lifestyle of college began to catch up with Fritz, and the social and educational demands began to mount. Overwhelmed and emotionally insecure Fritz accelerated his substance intake, leading him to high-highs in a public setting but, terribly low-lows in private. Every morning Fritz awoke he was riddled with depression and suicidal thoughts. Emotionally Fritz was out of control.
Finally confronted with the reality of daily physical and emotional hangovers Fritz decided enough is enough. He sought treatment for his substance abuse on his own. He began to fight to rebuild the life he once fought so hard to push away. In contrast to his first stint in treatment Fritz used a combination of tools and programs to build a recovery plan that best suited the person he hoped to become. Through a combination of AA meetings, meditation, and a fitness routine Fritz began to surround himself with others in recovery and mend his once broken relationships with his family and loved ones.
Today, Fritz is very grateful for the person he has become in recovery. He continually tries to improve himself daily. He uses many of the tools he learned throughout recovery to help him overcome obstacles that once baffled him in the past. The happiness he now has in life he attributes solely to his recovery.
Monica Dechow grew up in Dallas, Texas. She is the oldest of two and graduated from The June Shelton School in 2009. At Shelton she excelled in athletics, and was an active member in the student council and other various clubs. After high school, Dechow attended the University of Arizona. Upon reflecting on her decision to attend college out of state, she is now able to recognize this decision as an attempt to escape an already very serious drug and alcohol addiction. Monica’s addiction began early in her sophomore year of high school, but the new college scene proved to only amplify her drug and alcohol abuse. Her college life quickly turned from focusing on academics to partying. Monica knew something had to change. It was at this point that Monica was able to recognize that she had an addiction. She was unable to stop using drugs and alcohol, struggled with depression, and had serious anxiety.
On a holiday break from school, Monica made the difficult decision not to board the plane back to Tucson. However, Dechow was still not ready to fully seek help for her drug and alcohol addiction. Months later, only after things had escalated, her parents made the choice to send her to a treatment center. As many addicts do, Monica found herself in and out of multiple treatment centers. Finally confronted with the imminent fear of death she entered a dual-diagnosis treatment center.
The saving grace in Monica’s life was the birth of her son, Clarke. The moment Clarke entered her life Monica knew she had to take responsibility of her life and her sobriety. She was no longer just responsible for herself but for another human being. Through the combination of therapy, AA meetings, strong sober support, and the responsibility in motherhood, Monica began to find acceptance, serenity, and normalcy in her life.
Today, Monica is very grateful for her journey and it has driven her to return to school. Monica earned her Associates Degree in Drug and Alcohol Abuse Counseling, and has worked within the treatment realm for the last three years. She is currently attending The University of Texas at Dallas continuing her education in Psychology and Child Development to obtain her Bachelor of Sciences. Her personal experiences with recovery has driven her passion to work with people in early recovery. Her mission is to destigmatize addiction and to educate and motivate individuals to share their experiences of both strength and hope.